Group-ism?

"Groupism" : Pronunciation: (groo'piz-um) 


General definition on "Group-ism" in dictionary : the tendency to conform to the general thinking and behavior of a group.

My definition on "Group-ism" is similar but a change of word. i.e : the tendency to conform to the general thinking and behavior of  an "inferior and superior" group. 

The purpose of writing this post is to make you understand that is grouping really worth it? 

Now, I'd never felt that deepness of groups and never know how it's formed and until now when I really understand why there is human nature to form a group.

I don't even blame people to make a group, but I blame them to not talking with others apart from their group just because they don't like others with some invalid or inappropriate reason. 

In fact, the back bitching about the people in another particular group will make hatred towards each other. Yet, will it matter to you anyway if you were all about 'grouping' since school days.

I know many people who states

"I should go in that group because it carries lots of chicks";

"Why do you even come here? You are in that group" and in the same way,

"Oh what happened to you now? were you not talking with them last day?"

Be honest to yourself. Some day you might have stated this. If not, then I am good. I am glad.

Now some reasons why do they start this is because somewhere deep inside they were back bitched or been hurt or rather forming a group to back bitch and judge others. Yep.


Eventually, this typical incident happened with me today. 
"Oh. I saw you there. Party change, eh?" He, friend said in sarcasm manner. 


Never mind. But if this continues to happen for like more 5 years with the same batch you've been with them, you need to be concerned. 
At the beginning there would be fair behavior. Later a cold war and at the end of the year, there won't be nothing but conflict or a war. 


From this, decide if you still want to stuck in the 'Groupism' or move forward and socialize yourself. 
Its not really worth it. Wake up! 

Stop Procrastinating

"pro·cras·ti·na·tion" - The act of procrastinating; putting off or delaying or defering an action to a later time.


This studying thing has become my regular job. As years go, the more studies come on the head. 
But I don't really mean that I don't enjoy my job but its really get hard for me to get started. 


So my top method for procrastinating things in no order are:


1. Being really really thorough when I'm eating the dish in attempting never it get finished.


2. Give me myself a tea-break although I don't deserve a tea-break....Also, sometimes I eat biscuits. 


3. Replying my texts in order to get rid of them. Yeah, most people will avoid that but I will use my texts as an excuse for procrastination. Yes I am crazy. 


4. Replay the NDS games in my NDS even though no matter I had completed in my computer for no reason.


5. Surfing internet. SO much surfing. 




Okay, Now this is the thing to get serious. 
Procrastination is the thing that everyone has to deal with.. but the amount of procrastinate can be lowed as long as you know a bit of how it works. When you procrastinate, two individual part of your brain are essentially battling out of each other. The first part is called 'Pre frontal cortex ' which is found in front your head and this is the part of the brain which does the thing like "I really need to get that files or else my boss is going to get mad over me" Time to thinking. And the other part of brain 'limbic' would point to actually its primitive part buried deep inside my head which works like
"Aah! I should check e-mails"; 
"Ouh! I wonder whats going on in TV"; 
"I should take a nap"; 
"Oh yes! A chocolate cookie" type of thinking. 


The Problem lies the Pre frontal cortex sees the long term benefits. And the limbic system can do immediate satisfaction. They battle inside the brain of like I want to play a video game v/s long term benefits doing productive things. 
So what do we do? 


well, the limbic system get more powerful whenever you have a temptation of doing other than work and it becomes more tangential like when you hear it, you see it or you smell it. For example, 


The temptation of checking your e-mails becomes more tangential when you hear *voing* kinda noise in your computer or your phone telling you that you got an e-mail. So, to stop procrastinating you turn off the notification sound in order to low your temptation and do the work properly.  


Similarly, if you have a temptation of checking facebook notifications at the time when you're suppose to be working...Yes, I am looking at you...Try to disconnect the internet in order to stop procrastination. Yes I understand its just a notification but try to give yourself a break and reduce that temptation/ 


I know people have different circumstances that you might come to me to stop procrastination but there is only one simple formula is to try to stop the temptation and do more things productivity. 


I hope this would help you. 

*Reasons Why Hate About Facebook*

These days, facebook is all buzzing around. People moved from 'others' moved to facebook. Yes, I was a part of it, and addicted to it. 
As days past by, 'more' people joined it, I started having some bad feelings about this facebook.
Now, Hi! my name is Utsav Patel and these are some of my flicks of  *Reasons I Hate About Facebook* 


#1: Fake people - facebook carries some bunch of loosers who were never socially active in real world but are cool people online. Its like a fake people!


#2: I don't really hate facebook, but its the way people using it. They have started annoying with those spamming up the timeline of those love birds, hearts, etc. 


#3: Notifications - I had to think twice before commenting on anything. One comment, you get the notification spam as 'someone has commented on someone's status'. you get these notification in YOUR entire life. like FOREVER


#4: Tagging - Tagging in photos is like ok. I nevermind. But what's up with this in every status, 'had fun today with [tag]someone[/tag]' wtf should I do? Dance on it? 


#5: Lose of identities - Later, people started to keep these celebrity name or any cartoon name as their middle name. What? Do you consider as that celebrity? 


#6: Walls - Yes, I am talking about facebook wall. I never seemed on writing any wall. Yes, it must have some reasons but conditions applied. If you don't have any other medium to contact that friend, wall is there. But wtf is about writing the same thing again and again on someone's wall even though it can be said in mobile text messages.


#7: Chat - *Poop* sound buzzes! Oh who is online? Nevermind. Do you remember the 'Yahoo! Messenger and GTalk?' No? check it out that. Old memories will flash back in when other chat was not possible. Facebook chat entered, you said 'goodbye to your old messenger'


#8: Friends - There is always one friend in your friend list whom you never had a single talk in real life and you talk as a best buddy in online. Yes! you never spoke 'hello' even though you met in real life.


#9: Strange man - You never met them. You accepted them. You never talked with them. Yet you call them as *friend*. 


#10: Harassing - Especially girls. People adding randomly and talk some creepy thing about that girl. If you're in facebook, make sure you have privacy in all mean. I know some dogs.


#11: Fan/Group page - weird names with weird photos that is totally unrelated. People invites on these thing and liking every darn thing that comes on the homepage. Not cool. Not at all.


#12: Friend group drama - Comparing friends and taking quiz, 'Who is your best friend?' what is more annoying than that?


#13: Gossips - Gossip on anything in chat "do you know she is commited?" "No! is she?" "Yes. but don't tell anyone. He told me not to tell anyone but I did"


#14: Poking - You poke ones ok. fine. Poking again and again? whats the big deal? are you having some fun?


Last but not the least, 


#15: Everytime facebook and no other work - You're back to home? You login facebook. You're angry? You login facebook. You're depressed? You login facebook. You're happy? YOU login facebook again! 


*facebook chat poop* 

Hindi serials vs. English Serials

 As far as I know, most women/housewives  watches are watching this Hindi Serials. Yes, it includes small children. My sister who is 7 years old says, "I watch colors channel from 7 to 11." I was shocked as of course it wasn't her age to watch these serials. Children like her watches those Power Rangers or animated Kung Fu who shows and encourages c When I asked her why does she watches so many things without getting bored, she said because it has kids in these too. Today's kid! Well, to the point I seriously hate Hindi Serials. I think too much of promotions makes me this ugly feeling of NOT to watch those. The whole idea of feeding on the media of the same show they had telecast is insane, not to mention that there is no point for too much promotions of these serials.  to watch those stuff. I mean, WHY? Why do these people watch these Hindi serial? A pure example is my sister, she even watches these lame crime and love stories.

# 1 reason: Because they FIND them in their TV: Hindi & Indian channels comprise of more than 60% percent of our channels. Simply because people have access to watching those crap, they do so.

# 2 reason: Because it has been their for a LONG time: Hindi channels have been residing like ghosts in our TV channels for more years than I have been living on Earth. So, factor 1, combined with factor 2, initiated (or should I say, restarted) the Hindi frenzy.

# 3 reason: Lack of good TV programs IN EARLIER YEARS: It is a fact that the number of TV channels in our country before the start of this decade (2000-2009) was very poor. This, in turn, along with the fact that people were inclined to find sth else, helped the Indian dramas to be accepted like anything in our country. 

# 4 reason: Geographical & historical influence: It has been said by our old parents how what to watch and not to watch. Our country, 2nd most populated country! now imagine A person liking crap serials influence other one to watch these too.

Talking of English serials, they are more logically directed. I think they are intelligent people on making us believe that THIS COULD HAPPEN.

I swear, the day they bann these Hindi Serials and News channel, I will dance naked on street.

God, My friend.

 I am sad. I don't know why. Am I hiding? Am I afraid? Am I feeling depressed? Am I useless for people? Am I feeling really bad about something? I don't know why. There is something from which I want to overcome. There is something I want to do. I want a way. People have stop bothering me.

I need God. Yes. I know you are laughing. But I am serious. I need God, my friend.

I want to ask him if what is happening? What is he trying to do? Did I sin something? I want God who is always with me. Say something when I ask him what should I do. I want to ask him why am I sad. Only he knows. No one knows. Not even parents. In this world, no one really cares about anyone. God is the one who plays life with every living thing.

I want to ask him what is good and what is bad. I want to ask what do I fear the most and love the most. I want to be happy. I don't want to be in stressed. Not anymore. I do whatever things that makes me happy but I don't feel happy.

God, Please stay with me. Please be my friend. Please! Please! Please!

Thank You God !

I go there, I see that kid getting happy by just seeing the black & white TV. I wonder why those rich guys love to brag about their stuffs. Yes! I do wish to get all the new gadgets or new cloths. I do feel to have nightstay at some pub or have an uber cool hangout with friends in some luxurious car. Then while I think about this, my mood gets turn off. I start thinking about the old man still working hard, carrying loads on his head, getting happy with those 50 bucks he gets after. How do they still manage to show their happiness? we go to mall, just spend that 'silly' 50 bucks for some candies and cakes. While that old man mange to spend 50 bucks in their 3 times meal. There are other old man who just earn 50 bucks in few minutes and maybe per day thousand amount.

I am not saying don't spend those money. Spend it. Who says no. Don't complain after buying. You must think twice that there are some people who are not able to buy the same thing which they want it desperately. Don't complain. Say Thank You to God and it won't hurt you. You will feel nice. Actually good instead of hurting yourself by complaining and complaining. Did not liked the pizza? Eat it. Don't complain. Think your cloths are old fashioned? Keep aside and do some creativity from that. Don't throw it.

You might feel this bull-shit but I feel good to share with you. Thank you.

I'm Angry

I do get angry. Trust me. I do really get angry. But I don't really show off my anger. Some things make me angry, frustrated , annoyed , irritated. I just feel like to kill those assholes. I could not say them that "THIS MAKES ME ANNOYED" when he is my closest friend. 

So here some things while you should care to stop doing things. 

1. Vibration of benches in class. Stop moving your legs you jackass. The bench is vibrating.

2. Stop asking my dumb question. don't you know it is derived from formula?

3. Never call my female friends ITEM. Dude, there exist a descent language.

4. Stop listening to that Bollywood Rap songs. Think you are cool? No. That is uncool.

5. Do not dance if you don't know. Try to dance cool? unfortunately you dance like a K.G kid.

6. Do not follow me always. I go to washroom, you follow me. I go to talk someone, you follow me. Get lost!

7. Do not interrupt when I'm making new friends. No one is talking to you kiddo. Go away. Shoo!

8. Do not pretend you are a big fan too. Just because I'm fan of it, don't pretend you are too.

9. I hate that mood where every little thing pisses me off. Angry on someone? don't throw it on me. 

10. Never tease me when my crush is smiling on me. Fun though. But she'll never talk again to me.

11. Dishonest. Be honest. No one will you fuck you up.

12. Do not force me to do that. Eat Utsav! Do Utsav! Laugh Utsav! Say Utsav! Fuck you all. I'm in my own mood.

Things you do it too !

Your parents or teachers or friends always says 'Not to do that'. You get hesitate if what does actually happened by doing this. You mostly like and dislike certain things. Take some of this points which you do it too.

1. If you panic when you see police cars, even when you haven't done anything wrong.

2. If you ever stare at the sun just because someone told you not to. 

3. If you see a good looking kid and say 'Damn! he/she is going to be hot' 

4. If you've ever said "swine flu" instead of "bless you" when people sneeze.

5. If you hate when people say "You don't want to know". Of course I do, or I wouldn't have asked.

6. If you stay up late just to text someone.

7. If you make people wait for your texts because they made you wait last time. 

8. If you ask your parents for things when they're in a good mood.

9. You love watching people desperately run after buses.

10. If when you were little you went down the stairs on your butt. 

11. You pretend to sleep when your parents come in.

12. You thought Bikini was a poem when you were small.  

13.  Even if you like them, you won't tell them unless they tell you first.

14. If you look back at old photos and think "what the hell I was wearing!"

15. If you think it's funny how Disney believes that all of it's actors can double as singers.

16. If you have ever just copy and pasted Wikipedia to finish your homework.

17. If you love that non-stop texting phase with the person you like.

18. If you hate people who ALWAYS have to be the center of attention.

19. If when you NEED it, you can't find it, but when you DON'T NEED it, you find it.

20. If it's funny how you both used to be extremely close, and now you're complete strangers.


 

Reasons To Love India

OUR ABILITY TO ADAPT OTHER CUISINES TO OUR TASTES:
Hot and Sour Chinese soup has desi tadka. Sandwhiches aren't thinly sliced and lightly buttered slices of bread with silvers of cucumber. We add green chutney and sliced all and beetroot. We invented Chicken and Veg Manchurian, developed Udipi pizzas, concocted onion omelettes, created veg kheema, de-Japanesed Japanese food by cooking up gajjar-ka-sushi, and now are well on the way to Indianising the seafood diet of penguins in Antartica just in case that becomes the hot new pheron cuisine of 2010.

FAITH AND SPIRITUALITY:
Tell someone you don't believe in God. Go on. You'll find yourself arguing so vehemently to make your case that you could well be accused of having a severe case of faith - faith in no God in this case. Because that's what we do - believe. Hard. With Passion. In anything we want to believe. Which is why pratically every faith known to God is right here in India, and we're not above inventing several more if we think we haven't enough.

THE WAY WE ARE SO FLEXIBLE:
Checked anyone's Filofax lately? Know anyone who has a Filofax? We mat set off in the morning expecting to follow a strict schedule of assignments and appointments, but we are always happy to chuck our plans at moment's notice, particularly if the alternative involves partying.

OUR MANY AND VARIED STORIES:
Our History goes back 5,000 years - and so do our epics that contain every emotion, possibility and philosophy that humans have ever managed to come up with. Not to mention a frightening amount of maths, if we're considering the ages that make up the four yugas. Add to that the epics of Islam and Christianity, local folk traditions and tale that simply emerge from our fertile brains, and we've wondering why our TV channels used to import bad reality shows from phoren and inflict them on us.

CHAI:

Its raining. We need chai. It's cold. We need chai. It's hot and sweaty and miserable. We need chai. Yes chai, not tea. The over boiled, over - milked and over - sweetened stuff that could rot our teeth and turn our insides into shoe leather, yet never fails to put life back into our tired frames. Then there's also tea. Darjeeling, Assam, Nilgiri, Kangra.... Mmmmm, the fragrance.

WEDDINGS AND FAMILY OCCASIONS : 
Our wedding are attended by family, relatives, friends, pat and present neighbours, people who are invited you to their or their siblings' wedinngs, past and present collagues, random stangers because we had 300 extra wedding cards and didn't want to waste them , plus gatecrashers - a guestlist so long it rivals the population of the whole Africa. If however, pur homes are filled with the population of only one small country, like Bangladesh, we're just having a family dinner.

BOLLYWOOD JHATKAS:

Hips swirl in one direction while the torso twists in another and shoulders go somewhere else entirely even as the head moves so violently, it could spin off the neck entirely. We'd make excellent weather vanes, only no one would know where the wind was actually coming from.


AUTOS:

Germany had its cute little Volkswagen Beetle, we have our cute little autos - three-wheelers packed with hi-tech music systems and disco lights that would put nightclubs to shame, which trundle up and down roads as their drivers overcharge everyone in sight, including themselves by mistake.


BARGAINING:
worry about being cheated, who us? It's the people we're buying from who are tense. That's because we don't see bargaining only as legitimate means of lower ing prices. We see it all as a sport. So we will not move an inch from thelawalla even sin is blazing down at 53 degrees. We want that 30 paose off our kilo of apples and that is that.


RADDIWALAS:
When those phoren people start making noices that our carbon credits - ours for heaven's sake, when we are the most frugal people on this planet always trying to save 10 paise here and 20 paise there, never mind that are actually no coins in those denomination any more - we can tell them that we are green without even trying because ours is a country where recycling has always been a business, thanks to raddiwalla.


THE SHEER NUMBER OF HOLIDAYS: 
There's a New Year's Day practically ever month, not to mention some festival or the other courtesy one community or the other. And if we don't take the holiday, we are nasty exclusionists who do not believe in unity in diversity. So there is a minimum of three holidays every month and counting weekends and if we live in Kolkata, we also have bandhs.


OUR VALUES ARE STILL (MOSTLY) INTACT:
Family - check (see the millions who turn up for our weddings). Friends - check (see movies like 3 idiots). Frugality - check (ask the thelawalla if you need proof). Hospitality - check (look at the size of our stomachs and we haven't been home for weeks). Modesty - uh oh. Whats that we keep telling ourselves about Asian tigers?